My cousin doesnt want to marry me anymore.

 Dear aunty,

I am 20 years old undergraduate studying at you eat Peshawar my focus is on starting by there is a problem that is making things difficult for my family and my future marriage the problem is that I was engaged to my cousin when I was 9 but they shifted to the UK and become in nationals now my cousin things that cousin marriage is not suitable because our babies house she has rejected me and I am totally hard broken in our pakhtun culture this is a  may cause a series SURAH AHZAB VERSE  33:50 Allah has mention to the profit( PBUH) upon him that he may Mary the daughters of his uncles and ant from the father side or the mother side this permission was not only for the prophet but it is also permission for other believers.

Muslims have practice size marriage between first cousin in all countries since that time now what should I do with my cousin should I leave her or convention regards heart broken.

dear heartbroken,

Marrying 1000 is extremely common in Pakistan and in the Middle East however in many parts of the world for instance in the West it is considered just as women in a modest clothing in consider in many parts of Pakistan living in the UK or cousin has same please adopted the prevalent attitude towards marriages in that culture while he choose to join to your holy book for guidance on the matter your cousin is looking for her adopted country have you met your cousin recently it seems like your cousin is not the little girl that left this country many years ago she must have many different influences she move to the UK which is an open and Society she has definitely take on on other influences and it would be easier for you and the family it if you accept this also just because you have religious it doesn't mean that you have to marry or cousin it is allowed but it is not a requirement take this hard break and learn the lesson from it that will help you grow and function in the world there are many kinds of influence is not everyone looks to their religion for guidance while you may believe that religion is your best guide and one that works for you others meeting differently look around you and really observe people and their functions and actions are there always looking to release or culture for guidance in today's reality they may be looking for a culture that they it is right or wise we can't jam to conclusion sitting in our cheers and it is best to avoid judging others and instead focus on your own life and what we want to do let your cousin be and let her go she has effectively said no to you and in her adopted country she can do that safety without any respect her decision you can't and you shouldn't fight this.